"This guy's walking down a street when he falls in a hole. The walls are so steep, he can't get out. A doctor passes by, and the guy shouts up, 'Hey you, can you help me out?' The doctor writes a prescription, throws it down in the hole and moves on. Then a priest comes along, and the guy shouts up 'Father, I'm down in this hole, can you help me out?' The priest writes out a prayer, throws it down in the hole and moves on. Then a friend walks by. 'Hey Joe, it's me, can you help me out?' And the friend jumps in the hole. Our guy says, 'Are you stupid? Now we're both down here.' The friend says, 'Yeah, but I've been down here before, and I know the way out.'"
If you are like me, we try and answer all the problems ourselves and find that our past doesn't capture the proper experiences to solve the particular problem. It's at times like this when multiple perspectives, and the experiences of others, can help fill our gaps in knowledge.
Every problem in life has a solution, that is the very nature of the term. What we find is that when we take the time to understand the problem, it's not so much about being able to solve it ourselves as it is about knowing who to ask for help. Whether it be our friends, teachers, mentors, or bosses, someone in our circles has the knowledge and know how to help solve our problems, or at the very least, guide us in the right direction.
McGarry's quote explains to us that the individuals in our circles may have a unique solution to a problem that seems to have none. These people have been through similar circumstances and their personal struggles have led them to find a path that is yet to be discovered by ourselves. Using the friend as a guide, it is much easier to follow them down a path that they know exists rather than trying to discover it anew by ourselves.
Don’t be afraid of the stigma of being powerless and needing help, the smartest and most powerful individuals in the world are surrounded by influencers who have a working knowledge of a broad range of situations. Ask for help when you need it, the best leaders in the world would do the same.